Missing out at Christmas

7 Tips for Dealing with Missing Out During the Holidays

This is an edited  post I originally wrote especially for ProHealth’s Inspirational Corner  and first appeared there in December 2018.  I originally wrote this post for people who have to miss out on holiday celebrations because of chronic illness. But right now, many other people are facing missing out on their usual traditions and the joy … Read more

woman looking peaceful and happy

Masterfully Managing Emotions

A big part of mastering life with chronic illness is the ability to reclaim wasted energy so that it can be directed to more effective uses, like healing, contributing or fun. Difficult emotions are a natural and unavoidable part of living with chronic illness, the losses we have to face, the disappointments and frustrations of having … Read more


It’s OK to be Fed Up and Unmotivated

This letter is for you, whether you’re a healthy person struggling with lock-down at the moment or a spoonie feeling fed up with chronic illness….. Dear friend, I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling fed up and unmotivated right now. But know this, what ever you are feeling right now is OK. It’s a totally understandable … Read more


Letting Go of Worry and Visualising a Happy and Healthy World

With all that has been going on in the world recently it’s not surprising that you may be invaded by worry. With illnesses like ME/CFS where there is an overactivity of the sympathetic nervous system, once the worry switch has been switched on, it can be very difficult to switch off. Although generally, I have … Read more

What you can't do is irrelevant if you're enjoying this present moment

Letting Go of the Frustration of Missing Out

Life lessons from travel and chronic illness When I was travelling in Africa in my early twenties on a very tight budget (pre-chronic illness), there was no internet to research what to do where, just a trusty guide book (usually a rough guide or a shoestring lonely planet) and the recommendations of other travellers you’d … Read more

tips for getting started despite low motivation

ME/CFS and No Motivation? Start Small, Value Small, Be Kind!

My low functioning, following my move and the autumn season change is dragging on now and along with poor functioning my motivation is still pretty low. I’ve always recognised that low motivation accompanies a dip in functioning or a crash, and having done a lot of internal work I’ve been able to make sure that … Read more